Did I get your attention? And yes, it is true. You only need one asshole to survive, and we are all born with one! So, why make a habit of collecting more? You know the ones I am talking about, the chronic complainers, the constant people who brag of their accomplishments, people who manipulate, take advantage of or put you down. Mine and your definition of the word may be different yes, but I think overall you get the point. What do assholes do? Eliminate/excrete waste. As with our body, as with the nature of the above people I described. It could be someone at work, someone in line at a coffee shop or someone near and dear. I say, treat it as a situation you don’t need to become involved with, and move on your way. It will serve you better in the long run. Sounds easier said than done? Not really….you CHOOSE who you spend your time with, who you hold conversations with and what you let get under your skin.
Being surrounded by these types of situations and people affect our own MOOD and HAPPINESS! Life can be challenging enough without having to worry about those in your social circle or work setting/friend group whatever it may be not having your back. We want those around us to stand up and cheer when we do well, and genuinely care about it being a mutual give and take relationship. Check in with yourself, how do you feel after you spend time/talk with this person? Do you feel the connection is genuine, do you laugh and relaxed when you are around this person? If it is someone within the work environment and you are unable to leave, I recommended staying away from that asshole and minimizing interactions. You will go home with less stress, enjoy your family more and overall feel better about yourself.
Over the years, I have removed many people from my life who I didn’t feel were serving me in any positive way, in doing this my intuition became stronger and my mood a lot lighter. I have left jobs because of it, or had to tailor my interactions within the work environment so I was able to manage these types of people. The social calendar may suffer but in the long run you will feel better about yourself, your decisions and your stress level will go down. People may judge or wonder what has changed, but I promise you will sleep better at night knowing you spend time on people who love and respect you. Naturally these are the types of people/situations that are going to bring out the worst in you. I think we all have the tendency on a bad day to complain, lash out or be moody, at the end of the day we are human. So if you feel the need to lash our, or are having a bad day, simply remember this: you already have an asshole, so you don’t need to act like one!
And, it is also important to note the difference between a bad mood and someone permanently being removed from your life. Take a few minutes to yourself and see if there is any cleanup or situations that need to be revised in your own life. And, the next time you are in Starbucks and there’s an asshole in line…don’t react & remember what i told you.
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