We all have them, days, weeks or could be months where things just aren’t right. Your mood is low, work is tough or your just in a place where you don’t feel happy. There may be times when going out with friends, or taking a few days off just doesn’t do the trick, you still feel crappy. I would suggest this, to become useful. Focus on a task, volunteer or pick a new project and give it 100%. Sometimes it is best to step outside of yourself, and seek something out of the regular routine. Sometimes our sadness, discomfort and anger could be signaling that it is simply time for a change, not a drastic change but a change or perspective. Help someone else out or buy yourself something nice, treat yourself and do something you have never done before! Buy someone else something nice, if we fail to make ourselves happy there is still much value into giving that to someone else.
We all have a set of skills and talents that can be given for free, I have found if I am in a bad mood going out and doing something kind for someone else can be a great pick me up. You will notice many people do this, and I think it is important to comment on. Letting someone go ahead of you in traffic, offering to help a friend move, buying someone a coffee or giving away clothes you no longer need or wear. These small gestures can help to shift and give a sense of happiness in small ways, eventually it leads to a life of depth and your perspective will change. By focusing on another person our attention shifts from ourselves, our worries and lack thereof in our life. By focusing on external gratitude our internal selves begin to shift, and we begin to gain perspective.
Too often we put pressure onto ourselves that the next big purchase, job or relationship is going to be what makes us happy. Finishing a program, or taking a big trip. Can you relate to feeling defeated after the high and returning to your regular routine? It is that feeling I am talking about here, what stretches further is compassion and gratitude for the present moment.
Stay healthy, Be Kind.
Oleanders Wellness 